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Bringing Our Fish and Loaves to Jesus

Do you ever feel overwhelmed as a mom?  Oh, that is an understatement, right?!  Do you ever wonder how you are going to be enough for your kids who need so much from you?  From the first moment we meet our precious little one face to face we fall in love and instinctively want the very best for him or her.  We desire to nurture our little one physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  We begin to feel the weight of the responsibility of leading this child into its future.  All these emotions can happen to us in a matter of moments.  I shouldn’t speak this way for all moms, but those were exactly my feelings when I met each of my three babies.  The love that welled up in me and poured out was immeasurable, but along with those loving feelings came the feeling of inadequacy.  Will I be able to be enough, know enough and do enough to always provide exactly what my children will need? 

Maybe you too can relate?  Let’s look at a passage in Scripture that may help us with these feelings.  Check out John 6:1-14.  Take a moment to get out your Bible and read the passage.  It’s the well-known story when Jesus feeds the five thousand.  Picture the scene in your mind.  There were thousands of men, women and children gathering around Jesus that day.  He was meeting their needs spiritually with His words and His presence, but they also needed to be fed physically.  How could they even begin to feed thousands of people?  So, what did Jesus do?  He asked one of his disciples, Philip, to come up with a plan.  Another disciple, Andrew, chimed in and said, “There is a lad here who has five barley loaves and two fish, but what are these for so many people?” (v 9)  Then the disciples went to retrieve the small portion of food available, all the boy had, and put it in the hands of Jesus.  We know the rest of the story…after giving thanks Jesus was able to feed the five thousand, with food left over.  Jesus met the physical needs of thousands of people with just two fish and five loaves of barley.  Amazing!

You might be thinking, yes that was one of Jesus’ great miracles, so how does this passage relate to an overwhelmed mom holding her newborn in her arms thinking about the future?  Or to a mom raising multiple children who is pondering if she is doing enough to pour into them physically, emotionally, and spiritually?  Or even to a mom who is in the thick of the teenage years doing her best, but questioning if her best is enough to prepare them for the real world?

Let’s address those thoughts.  There are many truths to take away from this passage, but there is one I have come to love and find rest in as a mom.  Let’s look at the boy with the obedient heart who was willing to give what he had to Jesus.  Then, what did Jesus do?  Jesus Himself filled in the gap between what was given and what was needed.  We, as moms, can learn a great deal from this passage.  God asks us to have an obedient heart, be willing to give what we have to our role as a mom and trust He will fill in the gap.  None of us can parent perfectly, do it all, be it all and ensure our kids will receive enough from us.  BUT, we can give our fish and loaves, what little we have, and watch Jesus make what we give, BIGGER, in His hands.  Bottom line, we need to parent WITH JESUS.  

God invites us as moms to parent with Jesus; to rely on Him, trust Him, walk with Him, day by day.  We can rest in God’s sovereign plan, take our daily marching orders from Jesus, and He will take what we give and make it enough for our kids for His plan and His glory.  He chose YOU before time began to be the mother of your specific children. He knew in advance they would need someone like YOU. (Ephesians 2:10, Psalm 139:13-16) And when you parent with Jesus with an obedient heart, He works through you to grow your children and you each day to be more like Him.  (Philippians 1:6) In the hands of Jesus, you are enough for your kids because you are a child of God, created with a godly purpose as a mother.  Let’s not allow the feelings of being overwhelmed to take over our minds and cripple us from taking what little we do have and putting it in the hands of the Almighty God. (Philippians 4:13,19) Invite Jesus into your mothering, give Him your fish and loaves, and rest in Him to make it into enough…with leftovers.

Why Your Child Needs a Counselor

In light of the most recent school shootings, I have come to the conclusion that our schools need less teachers and more counselors. As a teacher who is around children from ages 10-18 all day long, I can tell you without a doubt- your kid needs counseling. Even if he is not going through his parents’ painful divorce, a relationship break-up, struggle with pornography or a thought of suicide- he certainly knows someone else going through difficult times, and is trying to process it with them. Our kids need someone with clarity and insight to help them process through everything that is coming in and happening to them. Not only do our kids need it, they are desperate for it! School counseling offices across America are so booked that there is not enough time in the day to meet with all the kids that want help. Our kids are crying out for help. 

It is striking how desperate our culture is for counseling. Even as far back as 2004, one study from the American Psychological Association stated that over 50% of the people polled said that someone in their family has received or is receiving counseling, and 9/10 people said that they would go to or recommend a counselor to a loved one if a problem came up. A follow up article from 2014 shows that the trend has only been increasing year after year. 

Why are people so desperate to find a counselor? I think it is because they are realizing they do not have within themselves the answers, freedom, and healing they so desperately desire. American culture is beginning to come out of the “just look within yourself” fad, and finally coming to the realization of its inadequacy.  

The problem is, our kids need way more than an hour a week with a counselor to help them handle what is coming at them every day- in fact, even an hour a day is not enough. What our kids really need is a counselor who will be on call every second. When they are in a moment of panic, they need to be able to call a counselor immediately for the advice and wisdom they need. So where do we find the money and enough counselors to sit with our kids and help them process through everything at any given second?

We can’t do it. America is building a flawed system. No matter how much money we put into providing counseling or how many counselors we train and send out, we will still never be able to fully meet the need out there. 

But there is another option: 

 “It is to your advantage that I go away, for it I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you. But if I go, I will send him to you”. – John 16:7

“I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper to be with you forever- even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, for he dwells with you and will be in you.” – John 14:16

“When the spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth.”-John 16:13

“But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you”-John 14:26

“His name shall be called Wonderful Counselor…”- Isaiah 9:6

The reason that people are so desperate for counseling is because we were actually created to desire and need counseling in order to survive. This is why Jesus said that it is better for him to leave, so that he can send us the Helper, which can also be translated as Counselor. Jesus died so that we could have access to him 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We were not meant to figure this out on our own!

The reason America is quickly becoming such a counselor desperate culture, is because so many people are disconnected from the personal counselor Jesus died for us to have. Without knowing the Holy Spirit, people are left completely on their own to try and figure it out. Yes, our children need to see a counselor- but more so than just paying a stranger to advise them, why not also teach your children to know the Holy Spirit- the only counselor who will give them perfect and flawless advice? He alone can be with them every second to teach them, guide them, equip them and lead them into abundant life. Not only is he our guide, but he actually has the power and tools to equip us and empower us to do things we could never do in our own strength. He is so much more than just a comforter or friend- He has all the resources of heaven at His disposal! 

I am not saying that human counselors are not incredibly important and beneficial. I have benefited from counseling myself, and have many amazing friends who are counselors and see people walk into freedom every day. However, what I am saying is that there is so much more available to us. How much greater would that freedom be if we also had access to the Holy Spirit in addition to amazing counseling? 

Parents, I beg you. For the sake of your children, for our country, and for the world- teach your children not just to know about the Holy Spirit, but to actually know Him as their friend, helper and counselor. It is in doing so, that we will see this world begin to look a little more like heaven. 

Here are some tips on how to teach your children to know the one true counselor: 

  1. Teach them to pray daily that God would help them to hear and know the Holy Spirit. The first step to hearing God’s voice is always inviting Him to speak. He will find His own unique way for every individual to answer that request, but it starts with an invitation that He is eager to answer! 
  2. Read scripture to your children, have them memorize scripture, play worship songs and immerse them in God’s truth so that the Holy Spirit can bring those truths to mind at the right time. 
  3. When they are struggling with an issue, have them pause and ask God to put a piece of wisdom in their mind regarding the situation. Then, ask them to share with you what came to mind. If it does not line up with scripture, you can help use that to correct them, however, more often than not, you will be amazed at the wisdom God gives them!